Post by debutante on Aug 10, 2013 21:30:51 GMT -5
Since our elderly relatives passed on, I've had a lot of problems with my house. My husband brought home all kinds of "treasures" as mementos from his parent's house and his uncle's house. Trust me when I tell you the majority of this stuff is pure crap. He brought home massive amounts of kitchen equipment (I have all of these items myself and mine is in far better condition). However, he views this junk as "treasures". It has clogged up my kitchen cabinets and drawers making it difficult for me to put MY stuff where it belongs. Then he tells me that I have too much clutter and should throw away my GOOD stuff to keep his dead relative's CRAP.
In case you're wondering why this is an issue today -- I've been cleaning and trying to clear up my cabinet space so that my countertops aren't covered with the stuff that no longer fits in my cabinets and drawers due to his "treasures".
Okay -- I do "get" sentimental value. I have several items from my parent's house -- but those are boxed and in the basement. I wouldn't dream, for example, of keeping my mother's wedding gown in an upstairs closet taking up space.
I understand "wedding gowns". I kept HIS mother's wedding gown too (made incidentally, from a WW2 silk parachute). That was a "special occasion" item that I kept even though he wanted to get rid of it. That item meant something to his mother. I doubt she was emotionally attached to her pie pans, but to him, those have value.
How in the heck does a man get sentimentally attached to vegetable graters? Corkscrews? Incredibly UGLY everyday plates? I just don't understand why he has invaded my kitchen with this JUNK and is trying to make me feel that MY STUFF (which, actually does belong) should be thrown away to make room for this GARBAGE.
I am not sure if this is a "man thing" I'm just not getting, or if he's being a control freak.
Do all men keep massive amounts of things that belonged to dead relatives?
I am frustrated. I have been cleaning all day and he won't let me throw any of this JUNK he brought home out.
--Debutante
In case you're wondering why this is an issue today -- I've been cleaning and trying to clear up my cabinet space so that my countertops aren't covered with the stuff that no longer fits in my cabinets and drawers due to his "treasures".
Okay -- I do "get" sentimental value. I have several items from my parent's house -- but those are boxed and in the basement. I wouldn't dream, for example, of keeping my mother's wedding gown in an upstairs closet taking up space.
I understand "wedding gowns". I kept HIS mother's wedding gown too (made incidentally, from a WW2 silk parachute). That was a "special occasion" item that I kept even though he wanted to get rid of it. That item meant something to his mother. I doubt she was emotionally attached to her pie pans, but to him, those have value.
How in the heck does a man get sentimentally attached to vegetable graters? Corkscrews? Incredibly UGLY everyday plates? I just don't understand why he has invaded my kitchen with this JUNK and is trying to make me feel that MY STUFF (which, actually does belong) should be thrown away to make room for this GARBAGE.
I am not sure if this is a "man thing" I'm just not getting, or if he's being a control freak.
Do all men keep massive amounts of things that belonged to dead relatives?
I am frustrated. I have been cleaning all day and he won't let me throw any of this JUNK he brought home out.
--Debutante